Most psychologists agree we are wired to resist change. In fact, a recent study showed that monkeys are more cognitively flexible than humans. That's not to say we're incapable of change or even enjoying change on occasion, but for the most part, we like things the way they are. Want to see someone resistant to … Continue reading Human nature, reality, and the ceaseless flow of time

Asking "Why?" can be a millstone. I know what happened. I know when it happened. I know how it happened. I know to whom it happened. The entire USAFA family knows the answers to all those questions. None of us know why. And the weight of not knowing why is unbearable. Why did Cadet Christopher … Continue reading There are no answers, only reasons to be strong

I've written recently about how most of your friends and family really don't understand what it means to have a child at one of our military academies. And while many will talk about how close they are with the parents of their child's classmates, I am confident they will not understand our bond. That's not … Continue reading A somber introduction to #YourCadetIsMyCadet

Nearing the end of my sixth year as a military academy, I can definitely state that it's definitely a roller coaster ride. But like a lot of roller coasters (at least if memory serves), the biggest up and down is at the beginning then things kind of smooth out. Don't get me wrong, there are … Continue reading I got rhythm, who could ask for anything more?

Before my kids expressed an interest in our military academies, I'll be honest, I didn't know much about them. Now that I'm immersed in them, they are a huge part of my life. When most people learn of my kids' circumstances, they respond with congratulations and "you must be so proud" and other congratulatory phrases. … Continue reading Of pressure, temptation, opportunity, consequences, and lessons learned

There was never a question that when we got a dog, it would be Catie's dog. So when we found the collie puppy to bring home, we named it Falcon (both our high school and my alma mater have Falcons for mascots), and Catie was her human, a role she took seriously. Even on vacation, … Continue reading Saying goodbye to our favorite Falcon

All of our military academies, USAFA included, are built on traditions. Pick out an element of the uniform and there will be a story behind it. There's a reason they march the way they do. The names on the buildings, the statues, they all mean something. That being said, things do change. Over the course … Continue reading Another evolution for the military academies

So last week I wrote about how all Spring Breaks are not created equal. Today I'm introducing a corollary - all goodbyes are not created equal. For me, the Spring Break thing was all about handling Facebook posts from other parents. Some cadets will have rousing adventures with their families, some will come home and … Continue reading Corollary: All goodbyes are not created equal

Although sometimes punctuated with unexpected curveballs, there's a certain comfortable rhythm to life as an Academy parent. I day comes, BCT happens, cadets head off to summer trainings, the school year begins, etc. And so on the heels of Recognition, we arrive at Spring Break. With it comes the regular flood of Facebook messages - … Continue reading All Spring Breaks are not created equal

One thing I've observed as a military academy parent is steady, relentless cycles of time. I Day arrives and BCT happens, leading to A Day. For each class, it's all brand new. But to the institution and those familiar with it, it's just part of the endless cycle. And so it goes for the USAFA … Continue reading You betta Recognize